We’ve all done it. You know what it I’m going to say, don’t cha? Yep, I’m talking about resolutions. How many of you have made resolutions and then promptly forgot ’em? Or worse, you make a serious attempt, only to lose your mojo around mid-February. At least, that’s when I notice the parking lots at the gym start to thin down. Not that my ass is in one mind you. It’s cold out.
Most of you, by the time you get to be my age stop making resolutions altogether because you just make yourself feel bad when you aren’t able to change the things you want to change. That would be me. I started to rethink resolutions a few years ago.
I didn’t want to give up doing the New Year’s thang altogether. There is a part of me that loves the idea of a fresh new year. It’s like a pretty new piece of blank stationary. Writers love pretty stationary. And pens. I have a very nice pen that my husband won for hitting a sales goal. I promptly stole it while he was celebrating. He was so drunk, he didn’t notice. True story.
Okay, I got sidetracked by pretty paper and perfect ink pens with just the right weight. Sorry, they’re like catnip for writers. Where was I? Oh yes, the new year. First, I quit making resolutions and set goals for myself instead. This worked better. I hit a few goals and felt invigorated, but I still wasn’t quite there yet. Then, the other day, I was Reading “Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins. For those of you that don’t know me, I am an avid reader of self-help books. And books on writing. And fiction, of course. Who doesn’t love fiction? I have about 55 books in my Kindle and I set my new goal on Goodreads for 52 books this year. If you are ever trying to find a good book to read, you can find plenty of suggestions on my blog or friend me on Goodreads.
Anyway, in this awesome book, Tony mentions a discovery he made about words. Apparently the words you use in everyday conversation when referring to your life have an effect on how you feel about your life. If you want to change your life, you just have to change your words. I don’t know about you, but this idea blew my mind. Could it really be that simple? If I start peppering my conversations with the word fabulous, will I feel fabulous?
I’m feeling fabulous already. I decided that not only did I need to test out this idea, but I needed to do it on a grand scale. Why? That’s just who I am baby. Amber likes to go overboard. That’s how I roll. I decided to choose five words. I could have chosen like a hundred, but my life coach Brooke Castillo talks about constraining your focus. That’s a hard one for me obviously. I have twins for crying out loud. I couldn’t even have babies one at a time.
Yep. Those are really my twins. Are they cute or what? Even without the bangs that their big sister cut off like a week before picture day. I tease my son that he is going to be an underwear model one day.
As I was saying, I chose five words that I wanted to epitomize 2018. Not the year I think I will have based on past experience. No. I’m talking about the year I want to have. The kind of year I dream about in those rare dreams when you wake up smiling because you were so happy. You know, like I’m a size six and I’m wearing a stunning designer evening gown and Steven Spielberg is hounding me about movie rights while a hot English actor is dragging me onto the dance floor. That kind of dream. Don’t tell Chris. Shhh. Our secret.
So what are the words/phrases I have chosen? Drum roll please. They are as follows:
Willingness to Fail
There they are. That is the year I want to have. What kind of year do you want?